6 Tips for Getting Out of Your Own Way at Networking Events
Networking events can be intimidating, but they’re also great opportunities to build connections and grow professionally. If you’re struggling to get out of your own way at these events, here are 6 tips that can help you feel more confident and engage more freely:
1. Shift Your Focus from Yourself to Others
Instead of worrying about how you appear or if you’re saying the right things, focus on the people around you. Approach networking with a mindset of curiosity—ask questions about others’ work, interests, and challenges. People love to talk about themselves, and this approach takes the pressure off you to constantly be "performing."
2. Set Small, Manageable Goals
Instead of aiming to network with everyone at the event, set a specific goal, such as having meaningful conversations with three people. This makes the event feel more approachable and ensures that you focus on quality, not quantity. It can also reduce overwhelm and boost your confidence.
3. Reframe "Networking" as "Relationship Building"
Networking often feels transactional—like you have to walk away with something. Instead, reframe the process as relationship-building. Think of it as a chance to make a new friend or learn something valuable, rather than a performance to "sell" yourself. This mindset shift can help you relax and make more authentic connections.
4. Practice Self-Compassion
It’s natural to feel nervous, and everyone has moments of self-doubt. Remind yourself that most people at networking events are in the same boat and probably feel similar discomfort. Don’t beat yourself up for being nervous—acknowledge the feeling and push through. Positive self-talk can help you overcome internal barriers.
5. Attend Events that Offer Icebreakers and Conversation Starters
At Fresh Idea Collective, we provide guided activities that allow our attendees to kick off new conversations without the "ick" factor. If there are no icebreakers, prepare a few of your own open-ended questions to help you get the ball rolling. For example, “What brought you to this event?” or “What's lighting you up about your business right now?" These types of questions can make it easier to dive into a natural, low-pressure conversation.
6. Give Yourself Permission to Leave Early or Take Breaks
If you start to feel overwhelmed, give yourself permission to take a break or leave when it’s right for you. Pushing yourself to stay longer than you feel comfortable can backfire. Stepping outside for a few minutes or taking a short break can reset your energy and mindset, helping you return to the event with a fresh outlook.
Do you have any other tips for getting out of your own way at networking events? Feel free to contact me directly!
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